To Be or Not to Be.....

I had written in my Facebook post about trying not to take things personal. I want to eloborate further with this because we all go through circumstances where we are in a situation that an afront has occurred to us which can be taken personally. It did happen to our person...right?

This reminds of a convesation I had a few years back with a wise man who I had admired greatly and still do admire even though we have slowly stopped communicating. He told me not to take it personally...which I couldn't understand because how could I NOT take it personal I was feeling hurt. I can now see what he meant by that statement he said. I had to remove myself mentally and emotionally from the situation and look at it from the outside.

The hurt and/or anger you are feeling is because you have internalized a behavoiur that someone is projecting from their being...it could go from having someone stand you up, someone not supporting your dreams, someone calling you a nasty name, etc. We have to take a step back and say that that person's behaviour is not about me. They are experiencing something that has nothing to do with me.  Now we all know that we don't live in an isolated bubble and we all affect each other in many ways, but we can control how we react or don't react when we are headed into uncomfortable territory where someone's experience may arouse our demons. When a demon is roused, it can run amok if you don't take the reins and control it.

This is where we have to consciously be aware of our behaviour in those situations. It's very easy to fall in line with taking it personal if we feed into something that has nothing to do with us. Ask the questions...Why am I hurt and/or angry? Has my behaviour made the situation worse? How can I consciously shift my mind to see the situation is not personal to me? Be brutually honest with yourself. Being an extremely sensitive person, I am going through something like this. I have to learn to stop reacting to people's behaviour. I have to take the situation and see what is the lesson I need to learn without it being personal to me. To make a conscious decisions not let someone else's situation/behaviour affect me. To protect my mind and spirit to where I can be effective in my daily life and the people I encounter. I guess my learning in this is to let it go and give it to the Universe/Goddess/God to take care of it.